LATEST ARTICLES

Wallace Holyfield Shares His Dads In Delivery Story

Name: Wallace Holyfield | City: Dallas, TX | IG: @holyfieldcanhelpyou

Take us through your thoughts the moment you realized your child was ready to come into this world.

I was a lot of different emotions. I was happy, afraid, excited, proud… so many emotions. The main thing I was thinking is that I would be the father I always wanted for my child. I remember looking at the Cosby Show and seeing how great of a father he was and I always wanted that. I wanted my Dad to be there to teach me to play sports and be at the games cheering me on like k in the movies. I wanted to be proud to tell all my friends that was my dad when we were out or show family pictures and i did t have it so now i had to chance to make sure mines would plus more.

C95CDF17 6A2F 4211 B4C0 BB98A7AD95FF

What were your physical, mental, and emotional feelings while in the delivery room as your child was entering the world.

Wow, I remember when my daughter came into this world ironically “My Girl” by The Temptations was playing and they put her in my hands and She wasn’t crying. I was. She actually opened her eyes and saw me and I started crying even harder and went and sat down and started singing to her. Easiest the happiest moment in my life, I knew i would do anything. to make sure the world was hers.

Describe what it felt like holding your child for the first time?

That feeling is only comparable to the time i have done it with each of my children. It’s empowering knowing this bundle of joy came from you and they are depending on you to be great. It’s like the feeling you got when your parents were their most proud of you but times 100.

Do you have any advice for fathers who are expecting for the first time?

My advice to expecting fathers is, you won’t be perfect but you WILL be perfect for them. Be for your child what you didn’t receive from the parent you wanted. Grow – Learn – & Teach constantly but most importantly have fun because it’s a journey. There will be moments your children forget that will stay with you for a life time so even though they grow fast make sure you raise them slow.

Interested in joining our Dads In Delivery campaign? Click here.

Johnie Palmer Shares His Dads In Delivery Story

Name: Johnie Palmer | City: Dallas, TX | IG: @Johnie_the_realtor

Take us through your thoughts the moment you realized your child was ready to come into this world.

I can’t lie, I was extremely nervous and scared. I was 25 at the time and my life was totally different then it is now. I didn’t know how this person that was a street dude, was going to turn out to be a dad because I grew up with no dad. He killed himself when I was around 9 months so in my head I knew I would never let my daughter go without having a dad in her life.

Screen Shot 2022 01 11 at 8.31.22 AM

What were your physical, mental, and emotional feelings while in the delivery room as your child was entering the world.

I was really nervous in the delivery room. I know for sure I was sweating. I was just praying that everything with smooth with no complications. It was tough watching my daughters mom go through the pain she was going through. But when I heard that first cry, I knew everything was ok and my baby girl was here. I could breath again.

Describe what it felt like holding your child for the first time?

It was such a joyful moment holding my daughter for the first time. It was like a love that I had never felt before. All I wanted to do was love and kiss on her. It definitely brought tears to my eyes.

Do you have any advice for fathers who are expecting for the first time?

Embrace the journey. From start to finish. From the time your lady starts to show to the time you see your baby in the delivery room for the first time. Don’t take these moments for granted because before you know it they will have grown so fast right before your eyes. Always be a huge part of there life and show them what a real father’s love is suppose to feel like. They need us.

Interested in joining our Dads In Delivery campaign? Click here.

Bryan Evans Shares Dads In Delivery Story

Name: Bryan Evans | City: Garland, TX | IG: @Bryan_x1719

Take us through your thoughts the moment you realized your child was ready to come into this world.

I’m going to take it back to my first born Xavier. This was nothing like I have experienced before, I was at work an previously just had a false alarm so my job was on edge about letting me leave early again. But this time it felt different, my lady called me saying she was having signs and have already called the Hospital once and they said she was just having regular contractions and to go through the pre-labor motions. She was scared to call them again at this point I knew something was wrong as this was the actual Due Date January 8th 2017. So I called up to the hospital explaining the situation and told them we are on the way! Left work drove 30min. To get my lady and drive 30min back to the hospital we were going to have our child. Once we got there they said we will have this baby and broke her water during the long process the cord was actually wrapped around him 3x. So this caused for a emergency C-Section which we had talked about and prepared for just didn’t know it would happen.

Screen Shot 2022 01 10 at 7.08.59 PM

What were your physical, mental, and emotional feelings while in the delivery room as your child was entering the world.

My physical state I had to stay strong for my lady because I was her rock if I broke down she would break and I couldn’t have that as she already has high anxiety. My mental state was all over the place I wanted them both to be safe and emotionally once my son was born and I heard him cry I broke down with tears of joy.

Describe what it felt like holding your child for the first time?

When I held X for the first time I was unexplainable. My heart was full and the life I had previously once lived I knew i had to change for the better.

Do you have any advice for fathers who are expecting for the first time?

First time fathers all I would say is try not to over think it. Just go with the flow and handle everything as it comes. Us as men try to have a plan and when that plan doesn’t go accordingly we tend to panic a bit. With bringing a child into this world and being there for your child anything planned with certainly turned into unplanned so we must adapt to the situation in front of us without showing a change of energy.

Interested in joining our Dads In Delivery campaign? Click here.

Jamiyl Samuels Shares His Dads In Delivery Story

Name: Jamiyl Samuels | City: Springfield Gardens, NY | IG: @jamiylwrites

Take us through your thoughts the moment you realized your child was ready to come into this world.

As my wife stood expecting our first child I wondered how I would be as a father? How would I feel? How would I respond to the responsibility?

Sure the decision to make a lifetime commitment to one person is a life-altering event, but the birth of a child changes your whole outlook on life. Nine months of anticipation, anxiety, doctor’s visits, sonograms, morning sickness, cravings, fatigue, mood swings, and a baby shower lead to the unbridled joy of hearing the first cry of your newborn.

Screen Shot 2022 01 10 at 6.51.34 PM

At times I still can’t believe I am a father. It is the ultimate act of selflessness to put someone else’s well-being before your own. I soaked up every minute of impending fatherhood. The day we found out the sex of the child was especially nerve-racking. For years Tracy-Ann talked about wanting a girl as the first child. I didn’t care what sex the child was as long as it was healthy. Well, that was only 90 percent true. While I wanted a healthy child, I secretly, or not so, desired a son.

From the time my father walked out of my life, I told myself I would be a better one to my child. As early as 14 years of age I would often daydream of the day I would have my own children, even writing down their names (I wanted four, but then again I didn’t have to give birth to them). From the time of Trey’s conception sometime at the end of June 2006 (although I cannot remember the exact day I remember the act and failed use of the withdrawal method), the subsequent 36 weeks or so was filled with trepidation. Once my wife Tracy-Ann confirmed a seed was planted, we only told a handful of immediate family: my mother, my sister, my mother-in-law, Tracy-Ann’s grandmother and that might have been it. We wanted to make sure we got through the first trimester this time. Trey was not ready to come into the world as scheduled. 36 weeks had come and gone and Tracy-Ann was not even dilated. There were the requisite false alarms, one that had me scrambling from my hotel job as soon as I started my shift. After another few days with no signs of dilation, the decision was made to take the baby out by Caesarean section. Once a definite date was set the anticipation began.

The days leading up to the due date were filled with sleepless nights, last-minute shopping and preparation for the birth of our child. I set up my paternity leave (I didn’t know that existed for men until I was told of the option) from work and I was ready. Packing the hospital bag really brought it home that I was going to be a father in less than 24 hours. I looked back on everything in my life leading up to this point.
“Would I be a good father?” I thought.

Was I prepared mentally, physically, emotionally and financially for what was about to happen? All the preparation in the world can be done for an event, but you will never know how it will turn out until it happens and you are thrown full force into the fire.

All the diapers given as gifts from the baby shower will eventually run out. What then? You can cram for a test and find out what you studied is not on the exam. What then? You make an educated guess. Life is not going to go according to your plan.

Preparation is good, but it is how you adjust and adapt to the changing situation that will define you. I believe this ideology applies to parenthood as well. I stopped worrying and overanalyzing. I felt when the baby entered the world we would go from there.

What were your physical, mental, and emotional feelings while in the delivery room as your child was entering the world.

I made the conscious decision to be in the delivery room for Trey Amani’s birth. I wanted to be the first person my son laid eyes on when he took his first breath in the world. I was given a powder blue cap and blue gown to cover my clothes with. I was so excited I started taking pictures of myself. I placed the digital camera on a table and set the timer for ten seconds, running to pose before the camera flashed. My smile was a mile wide and I felt the sudden urge to buy cigars.

I ran to Tracy-Ann’s bedside, her belly still protruding from under the hospital attire she was given. I continued to take self-portraits of her and myself. My jubilant camera work irked my wife, who didn’t like taking pictures unless she was well dressed. A clear cap and hospital garb was not her ideal uniform for self-portraits, but she decided to grin and bear it because of how giddy I was.

The delivery room was not like I imagined it, seeing so many on television shows like The Cosby Show and soap operas like All My Children and General Hospital. The room was like any other except for the scale used to weigh the newborn in one corner next to a small table. There was a bed in the middle of the room where Tracy-Ann was already on. Her body was split in half by a powder blue curtain. From the bosom down her belly was exposed and she was surrounded by doctors and surgeons in white uniforms. A male doctor, not the lead surgeon, let us know what to expect once the baby was out. As he spoke, my mind began to race a mile a minute. I began to get the nervous feeling anticipation brings. I was a few short moments from seeing my newborn son.

“What would he look like,” I thought to myself. Looking back, and I may get struck down for this, at the time I secretly hoped the baby wouldn’t be ugly, a punishment for making fun of so many babies who were less than attractive. I had so many things running through my head that I was ready for it to be over.

Describe what it felt like holding your child for the first time?

At 1:50 p.m. on a Saturday afternoon, the 10th of March 2007 to be exact, my life changed forever. That sunny day in March, Trey Amani Samuels was born in New York Presbyterian Hospital’s Greenberg Pavilion making me a father for the first time.

As they cleaned the blood off of Trey (that was one of the names I wrote down so many years ago) and he weighed in at just below seven pounds, it was time to make good on the promise to myself. “Here he is,” said a nurse holding the smallest, precious pink-colored package. We had come face to face with our boy staring back at us with what seemed to be jet black eyes. He looked like an alien to me at that moment. Just as swiftly as he appeared, he was gone; off to get cleaned up. I looked back at Tracy-Ann still feeling the shock of officially becoming a father.

“Dad, get over here,” called one of the nurses.
I immediately jumped up, believing that I was to remain behind the curtain the entire time. I saw two nurses, one with glasses and another without (it was the only way I could differentiate between the two as they both had on all white from head to toe), bringing Trey to a table next to the scale.

“Where’s your camera?” the nurse without glasses quipped. “You gotta be on the ball, dad. This is the time to take pictures.”

Indeed the shutterbug had put his camera away believing I could not take pictures in the delivery room. I don’t know why I thought that, seeing so many shows where proud fathers videotape the birth of their children. Given the go-ahead to take pictures I immediately pulled out my digital camera and, with the record function, captured Trey’s first real cry. I was emotional, though I did not shed tears. My voice cracked as I whispered his given name out. Once I held my son for the first time I fell in love with him even more. When it was time for Trey to go to the nursery I made excuses to go and look at him. Every cry I heard reminded me of his. I never went to the bathroom so many times.

Do you have any advice for fathers who are expecting for the first time?

Embrace the moment. Take pictures and get involved in every aspect from the ultrasound appointments, doctor visits, baby shower gift selection. It is a time never to be forgotten.

Interested in joining our Dads In Delivery campaign? Click here.

Audie Diggs Shares His Dads In Delivery Story

0

Name: Audie Diggs | City: Los Angeles CA | IG: @audie_diggs

Take us through your thoughts the moment you realized your child was ready to come into this world.

My wife and I had just ordered pizza. Once I returned from picking up our order (trying to save money on delivery), my wife shared with me that she thought her water might of broken. She also started she was not sure and figured it was probably nothing. We agreed to call the nurse after eating dinner. We ate our pizza and fell to sleep lol. Two hours later we awoke and realized we hadn’t called the nurse. We contacted our nurse and she advised us to come in ASAP. At the moment it became very real, so we quickly gathered our belongings to head to the hospital. I was nervous, and excited at the same time. I was primarily contemplating my wife’s and daughters safety. Going forward everything from there moved quickly. We went from check-in to the delivery room. We had a few days staying in the hospital’s delivery room. One morning at 3:00am we got the green light that it was go time.

Screen Shot 2021 11 28 at 9.20.05 AM

What were your physical, mental, and emotional feelings while in the delivery room as your child was entering the world.

Haha, I created a birthing playlist for my wife. She gave me freedom to choose the songs. Due to my Christian Faith, I chose all gospel and contemporary worship songs. Our nurse (who was awesome) gave me the side eye and asked did I choose any songs that actually encouraged her to push? Realizing my error I begin singing songs that might encourage her to push. I sang the chorus of Salt-N-Pepa’s “Push It” repeatedly since I didn’t know most of the lyrics.

Physically I was exhausted and tired, but I was ignoring this because I was focused on making sure my wife felt supported. This was my emotion disposition.. striving to support my wife. While we had an awesome nurse, our Doctor did not make us feel prioritized. My wife being a black woman made me aware of the reality that often black women are not supported to the same degree as women of other ethnic backgrounds. With this mind until my little one arrived I was determined to make my wife feel fully loved, seen, supported and affirmed. I was very excited about my little one’s impending arrival and I figured the best way I could assure her safe arrival to this world is by my prayers, and my effort to love and support her mother.

Describe what it felt like holding your child for the first time?

Wow, how do I put into words the first time I held my child? Two thoughts crossed my mind…

1. My primary thought was this must be what God feels each time he comforts us as children with tender care and support.
2. I reflected on the song “Just the Two of Us” by Will Smith. He opens the song with the following lyric: “From the first time the doctor placed you in my arms I knew I’d meet death before I’d let you meet harm”.

These were my primary feelings the first time I held her. I have the privilege of seeing what God feels when he holds his children, and I’d die before letting my baby girl experience pain. I also felt a new level of responsibility to my family, to be a good man on their behalf. I realized I no longer had time to waste on nonsense. My time would forever be committed to first loving God with my all, and then loving my family. That moment of holding her for the first time, further clearly defined my priorities.

Do you have any advice for fathers who are expecting for the first time?

Love your significant other well. The best gift you can offer your expecting child is the utmost support to their mother. This will only make the pending arrival of your little one all the more smoother. Remember, that little one deserves your best, so give you best effort. I believe in you and God believes in you. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

Interested in joining our Dads In Delivery campaign? Click here.

Isaac Britt Jr. Shares His Dads In Delivery Story

0

Name: Isaac Britt Jr. | City: Douglasville GA | IG: @theinteriordad

Take us through your thoughts the moment you realized your child was ready to come into this world.

I had so much anxiety and excitement all at the same time. My first daughter… I didn’t know what to expect after 23 hrs of labor. Our goal was to deliver her as natural as possible but the facts were otherwise. After an emergency C-section my baby girl came into this world.

1FAIpQLSdnT1tP1M72tAAU1QpelSeG60EWqRVIqdst5Kr3CZPuJZebjg Mp9N7Btod wkJMye4dT 1940356694 E07FD569 19E4 4F00 AB66 3FCCD335FEBD

What were your physical, mental, and emotional feelings while in the delivery room as your child was entering the world.

I had mixed emotions… proud.. in love all over again… nervous… responsible! Once again a ball of emotions all over the place.

Describe what it felt like holding your child for the first time?

It felt like I won the lottery and nothing else was more important than her.

Do you have any advice for fathers who are expecting for the first time?

My advice for fathers expecting for the first time is to simply enjoy the ride. Take time to sit into the fact that life as you once knew it will be no longer. Take time to enjoy the view. Take time to be intentional. Don’t take time for granted because every moment is priceless. Welcome!

Interested in joining our Dads In Delivery campaign? Click here.