J. Yancy Merchant, Jr. Says “Being a father means being strong all the time”

Name: James Yancy Merchant, Jr. | City: Queens, NY | IG:@DaddyNewFace

What does being a father mean to you?

Being a father means taking care of your responsibility once you made the decision to bring a life into this world . Being a father means providing for someone who can’t not provide for themself. Being a father means being strong all the time because there is always someone watching you for inspiration. Being a father is the greatest feeling in the world.

BC4139D6-5F10-44B4-8999-ED5128AD7B0B.jpeg (765k)

Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.

Growing up my biological father wasn’t around at all but I had my father there who provided for me and my family regardless of us being blood. He didn’t say much but always made sure we were good . My grandfather was always there to make sure I learned the life lessons I needed to be a man. He taught me about women and how to cook . My uncles were there to make sure I knew about brotherhood and kept me and my cousins close.

What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?

I realize that kids watch your every move . I do and say things my father did growing up and didn’t even realize it until people pointed it out. I make sure I’m more vocal and present so the kids will know I support them no matter what . I also teach them things I was taught and wasn’t taught because I know how important that was to me.

Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey?

The number one obstacle I had in my fatherhood journey is dealing with seeing two of my 5 children half the time due as they were born to my first wife. I try my best to be there for them as much as I can but seeing them and having them half the time is definitely hard to deal with. I just try my best to make sure they know how much I love them and I would do anything they need.

What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?

I would tell a new father to reach out to me. I have been through and seen a lot . I would also give them a copy of my new book, “Men get Pregnant, Too: Pregnancy from the Life of the Sperm” as a guide so they will know they aren’t alone and there are men out there who have experienced what they will be experiencing

If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?

My letter would be quick

Dear father, you missed out.

List 5 fathers you cosign. (Add their IG names)
1 @mrdougan
2 @custom_taylored
3 @ticocrump
4 @teachhustleinspire
5 @belizeantrackstar

Interested in joining our Fearless Father campaign? Click here.

dear fathers-i dad differentPurchase our exclusive “I Dad Different” shirt today. USE CODE: DIFFERENT at check out. Click here to buy now.


for content updates, resources, access to virtual sessions, and more.




Related Articles