Name: Timothy Talib | City: Orlando FL | IG: @Newmynds_fitness
What does being a father mean to you?
Being a father is DOPE!
Being a father means to be a role model, a provider, and a friend!
Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.
My father wasn’t there as much as I would’ve liked for him to be but I dont harp on it because we all go through things. It hurt me as a kid because I was learning from friends and the street guys which led to a lot of headaches and heartaches although I didnt know it at the time. I had an uncle who took me under his wing and I learned a lot from him.
My mom was also a great role model for me.
I was able to take all of those experiences to become the leader I am now.
The absences of my father made me understand the power of simply being present. I’m with my daughter as much as possible.
My uncle taught me to help others and to give. I given to the homeless consistantly as well as mentoring kids.
Mom showed me to never complain and to respect everyone. Instead of complaining I work for solutions. I also respect everyone, from kids to elders.
What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?
I learned a lot of things from people whom I shouldnt have learned from because they were still on their journey of learning. But I only learned from them because my father wasn’t there to teach me.
Kids are going to keep learning while on their journey and if you dont teach them, they will find someone who will.
I’d rather my child to learn from me than from some lost soul.
Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey?
Nope! Life is life and things are going to happen. I just keep moving. I look at an obstacle as simply “things that happens in life”. There aren’t many things that bother me period let alone in fatherhood.
What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?
Yoo, have fun, spread knowledge, and be present!
Before they’re inundated with society’s “way of thinking” kids just wasnt to play, eat, poop, and sleep. And they dont want to sleep they just have to. My daughter will rub her eyes a million times trying to stay awake. Lol.
Have fun with them and keep fatherhood simple.
Learn as much as you can and pass on the knowledge. Again, kids want to learn therefore you should teach them, but teach them how to be great, how to be strong, how to love! Allow them to think for themselves and to make choices.
Being present gives kids confidence that can’t be replicated. Kids will try anything if their father is present because they want to be fearless and they know that if anything goes wrong, you have their back.
If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?
Thanks for everything you did!
Name some other fathers you cosign.