Name: Taurus D’Antignac | City: South Central LA, CA | IG: @asapluchi
What does being a father mean to you?
Being a father means everything to me growing up mines wasn’t present due to incarceration no different than anyone else who hasn’t had there father in their life this motivated me and for a long time I didn’t know my purpose in life but having my son in 2010 gave me my purpose and that purpose is fulfilled everyday by being present and showing my sons and daughter what a real man looks like so is short being a father to me means being selfless being fearless being understanding and most of all being a leader because that the role of a man that what it means to me.
Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.
Man not having my father around impacted me in so many ways I had so many questions I thought he didn’t love me I thought I wasn’t good enough I just didn’t understand but that same impact of him not being there also made me a great man it motivated me it allowed me to understand life for what it is knowing that nothing is promised nothing is guaranteed the impact of him not being around made me who I am today taught me perseverance it told me accountability it taught me to live life purposefully cause you never know it taught me about legacy I’m my fathers legacy now I’m his junior I’ve made him proud and that makes me proud to here him tell me how inspired he is by me and how I’m keeping him going seeing me from Facebook and the man and father and king I’ve become so that is what his impact has done for me.
What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?
What I took from not having my father was that what ever I created that I had to stand up for regardless if I was ready or not in 2010 right after signing a full ride scholarship I found out I was having a son that moment my whole thought process changed him not being there for me made me know I had to do what ever it took to be in my child’s life and after years of adversity preserving and never giving up I’m blessed to have full custody of my oldest son and that motivation and ambition to accomplish that feet which is a major one came from him not being there although it wasn’t by choice this life is nuts I know if my dad could he would do everything differently.
Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey? If so, explain.
Sheesh man obstacles shit excuse my language I’ve had mountains to climb in this journey my first Bm she to say the least has no sense what so ever and with that obviously my son and me became victims like I said 2010 I was at school on full ride 2011 she went to jail on a felony child endangerment charge giving that I in the middle of season and school came home to give everything I had in me to safe my son from the System from America and it’s strong holds on black man what I accomplished being a kid from south central who was broke at the time is unheard of especially dealing with her and her family I had court orders that they didn’t honor and they hid my son out in another jurisdiction so I wasn’t able to get my rights honored and so once she was released the judge gave us 50/50 at that moment I knew what I was faced against with this women and the system so I didn’t return to school I stayed and fought to make sure my baby was safe and in good hands and I’m proud to say 10 years later my son is wit me full time ad is a budding baseball super start along with a promising engineer and all this has really been a dream come true Although I gave up on chasing my dreams I’m know in a position to lord willing be able to see my sons and daughter wildest dreams come to fruition and I couldn’t ask for a better ending to this long journey truly humbled by everything I been through and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?
The only advice I could offer to a new father is to always put them babies first cause they didn’t ask to be here you know regardless of the circumstances is up to us as men to always be just that a man And to me a real man means being selfless and the bigger person on every accord every time and I don’t take that lightly cause u know circumstances be really hell but with that strength we exuberant our kids will always model that and Thas our sons and our daughters.
If you wanted to write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?
Dear father I love u king thank you for naming me after you because of you I have a chance to continue and make our legacy I just want you to know I forgive you I forgive you for your struggles your tribulations cause now my questions have all been answered seeing how wicked this life is on us black men in every way I commend you for your strength and I thank you for life your truly Taurus Jr.
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