Name: Doc Adewole | City: Carson | IG: @survivalofthecreatives
What does being a father mean to you?
Fatherhood saved me. The opportunity to inspire and transform a life who believes in you, I can think of no greater fulfillment of purpose.
Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.
My relationship with my father was turbulent at best. He was emotionally, physically, and verbally abusive. I never actually heard him say that he loved me, the closet thing was him shaking my hand the day I graduated. Although he was around, I never knew the man.
What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?
Two huge takeaways I took from my earlier experiences was to love for one day. To never over complicate nor bow to the pressures of being a black dad. I also learned to offer forgiveness and apologize to my son, often.
Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey? If so, explain.
Going through a divorce was possibly the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It nearly broke me, yet it was necessary. Looking back I’m grateful for what I learned and the boundaries I gained. I believe those obstacles prepared me to be a great dad.
What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?
To love for one day. Simply.
If you wanted to write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?
Dear Father, I forgive you. I now realize you didn’t have the tools to navigate fatherhood, and that you were hurting all along. Know that you are forgiven.
Also know that I love you.
Name some other dope fathers you cosign.