Name: Darren Brooks | City: McKinney, TX | Instagram: @bbaskills
What does being a father mean to you?
Being a father means everything to me. It’s so important that I’m present in my kids lives to encourage them, strengthen them and love them. Build them up spiritually and emotionally. To let them know that daddy will always be there for them.
Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.
My father was a provider. He had a good job growing up but he was gone a lot. I rarely spent anytime with him. He did take me to practice and games but outside of that, we didn’t spend any time. By the time I turned 30, I started to feel like we didn’t have the father and son connection that I wish we had. I promised to change that with my kids.
What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?
I took to be a provider and protector. I want my kids to have what they need. Things for school, clothes, and support. I want them to know they are safe. That daddy will protect them. I took not spending time with my dad growing up to making sure that I’m present with my kids. At their schools, asking them how their day was, taking them to the park, taking them to get ice cream. Things like that.
Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey? If so, explain.
Some obstacles I’ve had is my daughters are getting older and trying to understand them emotionally. As a man and growing up as a boy, we are wired differently. I handled adversity in a different way. Girls are a little more sensitive so I have to be patient and understanding.
What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?
Always be there for your kids. Be slow to speak and quick to listen. Love them unconditionally. Don’t spend all of your time working and chasing money because that is valuable time you lose with your kids and you can’t get that time back. They grow up fast and they would rather have time with you instead of money.
If you wanted to write a quick note to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would it be?
Dear Father, thank you for taking care of me and providing for our family. Thank you for taking me to practice and games and buying me nachos and slushees afterwards. I wish we could’ve spent more time together outside of sports to talk about life and growing into a man, But I learned from you the things I liked and didn’t like and now I apply them as a father. I love you no matter what and I am grateful for the time we did have together.
Your Son Darren