Name: Tyrus Watson City: St. Louis, MO | Instagram: @smalltalk247_djluvrboi
What does being a father mean to you?
It allows me to breathe. After being a dad for 15 years, I’ve recently had several proud moments. When my kids were younger, I used to reflect on how I had assisted their development. Knowing that you are contributing to the personal development of another person is a powerful experience. I will need to stay a part of my children’s lives until the air in my lungs stops, through the good days and the terrible and depressing days they have endured and will continue to face.
Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.
Well, every time I see him or communicate with him by phone or message, my father says, “I’m his hero.” We had a solid friendship as I developed into the man I am today. My father constantly encouraged me to outperform him when I was young. He is always so pleased of me for being a supportive spouse to my wife and an involved father. I now see my father as the future version of myself. Every man aspires to have the kind of peace my father possesses. When it comes to father advice, I continue to focus on learning from him while he improves himself by taking notes from me.
What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?
The finest advice I ever had was to treat each of my children uniquely because they are all unique individuals. To match the language that my children enjoy, I learned myself. Nothing about their development into maturity will be void if I continue to understand how they prefer to be loved. I talk to my kids a lot so I can stay up to date on who they are.
Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey? If so, explain.
Yes. The fact that I have a son makes it a little challenging to comprehend his 7-year-old way of doing things. I started to stop yelling at him when he does something incorrectly or that he shouldn’t have done. I started to comprehend what should be done to punish him so that he might learn from his faults after realizing that I had committed some of the same errors.
What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?
To remain active in your children’s lives throughout all stages. Never assume that something is their fault because they are adults. Have you figured everything out yet? No, so act as the enduring mentor they also require.
If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?
I want to express my gratitude to Pop for creating a better version of himself. I like his manner, and I intend to uphold the tradition for as long as I can to ensure that our last name continues to be used for decades to come.