DJ Lynch Says “Being a father to me means showing up every day”

Name: DJ Lynch City: Spartanburg, SC | Instagram: @dadthinkbigger

What does being a father mean to you?

Being a father to me means showing up every day, showing love every day, and being an example that my kids can look up too by leading, encouraging, protecting, and providing for them.

Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.

My father actually passed away when I was just 2 years old. I think the void of not having him there has made me value being a father even more because now I can feel I can give what I missed and longed for growing up.
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What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?

I had an amazing grandfather growing up and uncles that showed me love. I took from them to keep God first and to always be a man of your word they were always present and when they said they were going to be there or do something they were/did. Also not be afraid to ask for help..people are willing to help you if they know or you ask, but if you keep it to yourself then you definitely can’t get help because nobody knows what’s going on.

Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey? If so, explain.

There has been plenty of obstacles on my fatherhood journey and it’s just now going into year 4, so I know there’s plenty more to come, but navigating working and spending time with the kids was hard in the beginning to find a balance. Just knowing that you have to provide for the family, but also longing to be there and see your kids grow up as us fathers know that time flies so fast. I personally balanced it by getting a work from home job, but that was my biggest obstacle in the beginning.

What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?

Enjoy every single moment ! You can’t get your time back or make your kids the age they are now again even if you’re 60 and they are 35. Enjoy them make memories! You can get another job, you can make more money, that game on tv will have replays, but some moments with your kids will never exist again.

If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?

Dear Father,

I love you! Thank you for giving me life. I wish I could’ve known you better before you left, but all things happen for a reason. I hope you are proud! I’ve heard many stories of how much you loved me and I could see it in the pictures that we have. Rest Easy.


Your Son


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