Name: Michael Watson City: Washington DC | Instagram: @mike2130
What does being a father mean to you?
I never met my father, I don’t think he even knows I exist. Growing up there are things that I wished my dad would have been there for and helped me navigate and despite doing well for myself, sometimes I wish I would be further.
How that has impacted me as an adult is that for a long time I struggled to take accountability for my actions. My mother (technically my aunt my biological mom’s sister) didn’t make excuses for how she couldn’t raise me and my sister or the circumstances of how I came into her care.
She made the necessary sacrifices for us and helped me embraced and own my story and help me become who I am. When life throws us curveballs you must exercise the ability and freedom to take accountability and ownership of your life
What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?
Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey?
Luckily there wasn’t an issue with me being my daughter’s father due to the fact that her biological dad isn’t in the picture. The obstacles that I’ve have had is more personal for me. I went from a life of having no kids to life with a daughter and a wife so it was an adjustment to say the less.
Over the year and a half I’ve been in my daughter’s life I’ve just learned to take things slow and give myself grace. She’s only 5 but she’s already established in her ways. I learned to take things one day a time and built our bond organically and now were in a really good space.
What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?
If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?
You and I never got the chance to meet, I’m not sure if my mom even told you of my existence. I just wanted you to know that I don’t have any issue or ill will towards you. Holding a grudge or anger for 32 years never seem like an ideal thing to do. I’ve learned to deal with the victories and defeats of not having a relationship with you.
That’s what life is all about, Learning to roll with the punches, getting knocked down and getting back up deciding to control what you can control and freeing yourself of the uncontrollable. Everything that has happens for a reason and if I had the choice to change the past I wouldn’t.
The experience of growing up without has thought me how to better deal with being in your shoes when my time comes and it has arrived. Maybe one day we’ll meet and in time you get to meet your granddaughter and be apart of my life in my second act. If that day never comes I hope you live the rest of days healthy and happy.
List 5 fathers you cosign. (Add their IG names)
1. Kyle Mimms
2. Darryl Bullock
3. Matthew Hailes
4. Joesph Savoy
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