Messiah Ancrum says it means “always being there even when they don’t need you.”

Name: Messiah Ancrum City: Stafford, VA | Instagram: @DaPa_Bam

What does being a father mean to you?

Being a father to me means always being there even when they don’t need you.

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Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.

My father and didn’t have the luxury of being with one another while I was growing up but when I became 18 I sought out a relationship with him and we are best friends today. This made me want to marry the first woman I impregnated whom turns out to be my soul mate the whole time.

What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?

My way of approaching school and doing the work is the biggest thing I changed when I started raising my girls. I make and made sure they knew how important staying ahead of the curve was. Meaning always do your work on time and hand it in on time.

Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey?

I have been injured on the job and got stiffed by a big delivery company known worldwide. This caused me to struggle with migraines and work faded away but I NEVER stopped being a Father or Husband.

What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?

Always believed that “ it gets greater later” said by my Father. Know that your children and mate will never leave you alone in any situation and you will make it.

If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?

I love and respect you for just being YOU my FATHER.


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