Name: John Howard City: San Antonio TX | Instagram: @TheDadBodStrong
What does being a father mean to you?
Growing up as military kid was interesting. Every three years we’d move to a different state or country. Making friends wasn’t easy and back then staying in touch wasn’t the easiest either.
My dad served in the Army and was away a lot, so my mom raised me and my brother mostly. One day my dad had a severe stroke and had to spend months in the hospital. After recovering from the stroke, things changed with my dad. My parents seemed to argue a lot more and at some times it got pretty intense. As I got older, me and my dad would often have arguments, heated arguments.
My arguments with him were usually in defense of my mom. I hated seeing my mom cry after also seeing her do so much around the house, keep us in school, be there for our events and just everything!
I guess the short answer is… my experiences with my dad are mainly arguments. I don’t argue because it brings back the rage I had dealing with my dad. I don’t mind engaging in a meaningful debate but I’m not wasting my time arguing with anyone anymore.
What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?
Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey?
My biggest obstacle was becoming a father at 16. I made so many mistakes that had made me a better father today. I don’t have the strongest bond with my 17 y/o son as I do with my other 3 kids. It’s something I’m continuously working to improve daily. I spent a lot of time away from him due to joining the military right after high school.
What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?
If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?
Dear Father, We had a rough time through out the years but we still keep in touch which I can say I’m happy about because your grandkids love to hangout with you. I hope that someday soon you learn to forgive those you have grudges against and let go of the negativity you have bottled up inside of you. Not everyone is against you and it’s ok to have differences but don’t let the differences burn bridges.
Interested in joining our Fearless Father campaign? Click here.