Name: Melissa Fanning City: Carrollton, VA | @mosleymimi
Dad’s Name: Charles Fanning
Describe your relationship with your Father and how did that impact you?
My Father was my hero. As a child we did so many things together. Our outing was going to the library together. He loved reading and learning which I also gravitated towards the same things. I was able to ask my Father about almost anything because to me he knew everything. He gave me a blueprint to the possibilities.
What’s the best thing you’ve learned from your Father?
The best thing I learned about my Father was resilience and courage. Despite how he served in the military society didn’t always embrace his deep dark skin he soared in his career and determined to be a great provider. He stressed education as a means to having choices.
What struggles did you face in your relationship with your Dad and how did you get through them?
The struggles we faced in our relationship was during those adolescent years not always communicating. As I think about it, communicating was our way reconnecting with an open heart.
What has your relationship with your Father taught you about what to look/not look for in your partner?
My Father modeled the role of a believer, provider and encourager. He emphasized the importance of family. He also stressed I could do anything and supported me in my endeavors. Helping others behind the scenes was honorable. He felt these were qualities I should have if in a relationship.
How has your relationship with your Father shaped the woman you are today?
My Father told me I could do anything I put my mind to and do it. He didn’t allow the “haters” to deter him from his purpose in anyway. Every attempt will not always be successful the first time so try until I get it right. He spoke over my possibilities which I believe to this day.
If you could write a short letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?
Dear Father,
I’m grateful that God chose you to be my Father. ..not a perfect person but a perfect Father for me. Not to sound too corny, you have shown me how to live freely, not to take myself so serious but laugh as much as possible and love unconditionally because you only get 1 chance and time is short. You showed me the beauty of life and the challenges that would help me grow. I’m grateful that you weathered society’s cruelty towards people of color to provide for your family. I’m grateful that you still provide for Mom in your absence. You would be pleased that I’m pursuing my passion of writing and the first book is dedicated to you, Sea Lessons with Daddy. I wish you had taken better care physically and emotionally. I wish we spent more time like when I was much younger…I miss you.
