Jazimon says her father taught her to NEVER fall for a man who ONLY loves himself

Name: Jazimon Williams City: Kansas City, MO | @Iamj.micoleeee

Dad’s Name: Vincent Williams

Describe your relationship with your Father and how did that impact you?

My dad struggled with drug abuse for the first 16 years of my life. He was absent from the home I grew up in. He eventually decided to give up the drugs and I welcomed him back like he’d never be gone. Since he’s been clean and drug free our relationship has been great! As a single adult woman dating has been extremely complicated. I do believe it has a lot to do with the lack of having my dad in my life. I do believe I’m a lot “tougher” because he wasn’t around and I’ve watch my mom do everything on her own. I have a very unwanted mask of toughness that comes out when I attempt to date.

What’s the best thing you’ve learned from your Father?

My father is a walking example of “Its not where you’ve been, but where you’re at now”. I’ve learned as long as you want better, better is always accomplishable!

What struggles did you face in your relationship with your Dad and how did you get through them?

My dad and I literally had to learn each other! He came back in my life at 16! I was nearly a woman! He missed out on the little girl, and he took a while to understand and accept that! He wanted to be this TOUGH dad, that only made me react like “who do you think you are?” We made it through some tough situations by simply talking! He’s stubborn and so am I! We have to talk things out and actually get an understanding!

What has your relationship with your Father taught you about what to look/not look for in your partner?

Never fall for a man who ONLY loves himself. My father is selfish in so many ways. Even when he was using it was selfish he didn’t care that my mom was working as a maid to provide for two kids. He didn’t care that he wasn’t in my life. At that moment he only cared about himself!

How has your relationship with your Father shaped the woman you are today?

I can change a tire! I can do a ton of things to a car! It might seem odd but my dad teaches me to not depend on a man. He’s constantly telling me if I’m calling him because I’m having car problems then I shouldn’t be taking any man serious. He may have came later in the game but my dad teaches me to SET THE BAR HIGH don’t make it easy or I’ll get a lazy man. My dad has never been lazy, a drug addict maybe but NEVER lazy! So it’s naturally in me to get up and go get it daily!

If you could write a short letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?

Dear Father,

I’m so extremely proud of you! You beat the odds and kicked something so wicked! You actually choose LIFE! I’m proud to be your daughter. I appreciate the role you play in Chases life! You’ve stepped up every time I’ve needed you the most! I know you worry about me but deep down inside you know that IM GOOD! I am the best version of you! God created me but without YOU I WOULDNT BE JAZIMON! Thank you for the 2 hour long conversations we randomly have. Thank you for always believing in me!

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