Name: Terry Williams | City: Winchester, CA | IG: @Mr_Williamzz
What does being a father mean to you?
To me being a father and being a Dad are two different things. Any one can be a father to child. But to be a dad is more intimate, more hands on, more loving and more involved. When my kids say I love you daddy my heart is filled with love and I swear that feeling never gets old.
To me being a Dad means being there to mold, teach and guide your child through words and most importantly by actions.
To me being a Dad means encouraging a child to follow their dreams. Uplifting them boosting their confidence and self worth.
To me being a Dad means providing and Unconditional loving, and putting your child’s needs before yours AND SACRIFICING YOURSELF GIVING YOURSELF AND YOUR TIME TO BE INVOLVED AND ACTIVE IN THEIR LIVES
To me being a DAD means being the best example that I can be. And the best man I can be because your children are always watching and observing
To me being a Dad is a blessing from God that not everyone gets to experience, the joy the tears the love and all the memories that come with being a dad is unexplainable.
All the above i mentioned i do I PRACTICE and I can honestly say me being an active dad makes ME A GREAT FATHER. AND THAT TITLE OF FATHER I TAKE WITH PRIDE AND HONOR
Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.
My father is definite my role model. not only as a father but as a man.. the way he lead his family and how great of a father he was i try to emulate and add my own twist.
I had great experiences, great times and great memories with my father. From new experiences he introduced me to like camping, acting modeling, sports, museums etc. From father and son time and father and son bonding whether its him coaching my baseball basketball teams to us just reading books together , movies and him just being an active loving father impacted me in such a positive way I am blessed to experience. From life lessons and knowledge he instilled in me as a youth I had no knowledge of then. but when I reached adulthood and being a father my self is when I understood everything he was saying and teaching. I thank God everyday for blessing me with a great father
What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?
My father like I said is definitely my role model and I look up to him in so many ways. A major experience growing up that I take into my fatherhood journey is keeping my family rooted and grounded in church. Because even when kids do end up doing things bad. They are still grounded and know what’s right and whats wrong. Beign grounded in the church growing up help me stay out of alot of trouble. Other experiences i take with me is when its time to discipline I discipline in a calm matter explain to them what they did wrong, and I make sure they understand why they are getting in trouble etc. I make sure I always love snuggle cuddle my kids because in this ugly negative world I want them to know home and me being there father is there safe place. A place of love. Another experience I take to fatherhood is to always uplift them speak positive to them and to have the mindset of a winner with a positive mindset and they can accomplish anything with God on there side
Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey?
One major obstacles I had was doing too much, which lead to overwhelming myself. When my kids were born I made it a point to do everything I can. From changing diapers, to feeding them, playing with them bathe them, laundry, putting them to sleep, not putting them in daycare for the first 2 years of their life because I wanted them to be safe and feel that Unconditional love a daycare cant provide. In return I burned myself out overwhelming myself. Working full time graveyard and getting off in the morning to watch my kids. Drained and exhausted my wife assured me I dont have to do everything. She was assured me we were a team and with her being my help mate it made life so much easier.
What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?
Enjoy every phase of parenting and adulthood because once that phase is gone it becomes a memory and a new phase will come and you will never be able to get it back. When they are an infant sleeping all day enjoy that admire that. When they start crawling they will never sleep all day that phase is gone. When they start walking they will never crawl again. Etc. Enjoy the phase of infant to toddler to child to pre teen to teenager to adulthood. Because time flies. When we leave this earth all we leave behind is the memories and impact we made on our loved ones.
If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?
Words cant even express the love and admiration I have for you. You being an active father loving father in my life, made me the man I am and most importantly the father I am to my kids. When my kids tell me I’m the best and they love me . I think of you and thank you because I wouldn’t have been this without you and I am a reflection of you. You molded me into a man and a father. And that is truly a blessing from God. Thank you dad for the love, the life lessons and leading by example you taught me. When my son becomes a father and his kids love him, it all dates back to you because you are the foundation and broke the mold of fatherhood in our WILLIAMS FAMILY. LOVE YOU