Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.

The experience I had with my father left a lot to be desired. Though he was a present disciplinary figure that’s all that he offered. The reverence he desired was instilled through fear. I don’t recall any fun memories growing with my father. The stuff he lacked was affection, attention, and devotion. There are certain things a son expects to experience with his dad. Some of these things include playing catch, learning to riding bike, how to be a gentleman, stand up for yourself, and learning about girl ect. The first embrace I experienced with my father was occured in my late twenties. It was then I realized there was a void from the absence of his love. I vowed that void will never exsit in my children.

What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?

My father was not an example to follow after. I guess you can say by watching him I learn what not to do. I made up mind a long time ago to be a better father than he is. I make the extra effort to be available, to listen, to comfort, to embrace, to teach and support. I make it my priority for my sons to hear and see that I love them.

What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?

My advice to new and old fathers is to be present, available, and loving. Make sure child know you will always have their back. Teach them to know their worth, and everytime they call show up.

If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?

Dear Father, I forgive you. I realized that you didn’t have the tools to be what and who I needed. Despite all of these thing I will always love you.