Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.

My father was far from perfect but when I became a man and a father I understood why he was how he was. I can’t point to one single experience but I will say I got my hustle and work ethic from him. He didn’t graduate from school and couldn’t read or write but he owned his own produce business in Puerto Rico. When we moved to the United States he held a job with a construction company for 15+ years. Additionally he was very business savvy and always had a side hustle; whether it was reselling goods or doing odd jobs.

Many times he would bring my little brother and I to help him on these odd jobs. To be honest it was the last thing we would want to be doing after school or on summer recess but moments like these planted the seeds to my work ethic and entrepreneurial spirit.

What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?

My father didn’t show a lot of affection. His affection was him putting food on the table, a roof over our hears and clothes on our back. Growing up I always wanted that so I make sure to show my son affection everyday with hugs, kisses, I love you’s and more. Additionally I support my son in whatever he does or has interests in. Everything that I did not receive as a child I make sure to double up on when it comes to my son

Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey?

I am still learning to walk a fine line of being a father and friend to my son. Sometimes he doesn’t see the difference which can make disciplining him tough because he takes it so personally.

What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?

For this answer I think about a certain quote from The Godfather. “A man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man”. It may sound cliché but it rings louder and louder for me as I get older. I would tell all new fathers to stay close to home and embrace the good, the bad and the ugly with being the position. It won’t be easy but it will be rewarding.

If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?

Dear, Papi.

Thank you for everything you have ever done for me. You are the biggest influence in my life.

I love you!

Best,
Martin