Nicolas Anderson-Mcintosh says “Dear Father, I promise I will be nothing like you, nonetheless I forgive you.”

Name: Nicholas Anderson-Mcintosh | City: NJ | IG: @iamslicknick

What does being a father mean to you?

Setting the standard and bar for your family, taking lead, overcoming stigmas, and masculinity traps to further the understanding of of what it takes to be a man/father.

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Describe your experience with your father growing up and how that impacted you today.

I had no interaction with my father until I was 22 years old. He built a relationship with me once he knew I was serving in the military making good money and manipulated me while I was trying to fill the void he left with me as a child being an adult man.

What things did you take from your experience growing up into your own fatherhood journey?

It’s a learning process. I realize that it is about thee awareness of the fact that my 2 sons are always looking at my every move to imitate. I am careful of the things I do and strive for greatness so they can pattern my actions as they grow.

Have you had any obstacles on your fatherhood journey?

Yes, being raised by a single mother I had a lot of bottled up emotion and subconsciously I repeated a lot of the ways of discipline that hurt me as a child.

What advice would you give others new on their fatherhood journey?

Be what you never had.

If you could write a quick letter to your father, starting with “Dear Father,” what would you say?

Dear Father, I promise I will be nothing like you, nonetheless I forgive you.

Name some other fathers you cosign.

1 @moneyballhak
2 @wavybrazy
3 @cofee

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